By Marco Nunzio Alati
“Living on Vacation” is not just the title for this article. It is my motto in life. It is a statement that is at the core of all my values, both inherited and acquired. As an Italian, I was raised in a culture that encourages stress-free living by balancing relaxation, enjoyment, work, and communal bonding. Most of us were raised being told that in order to achieve our goals, we must follow a set of steps diligently. I beg to differ. I have found that having a vision is important, but a sense of trust that allows us to detach ourselves from fear or expectations is crucial in making the process more fun and less stressful. Read this carefully: our experiences are a reflection of our inner states, thoughts and feelings. Our truths are perceived through the lens of our own personal beliefs.
"Read this carefully: our experiences are a reflection of our inner states, thoughts and feelings. Our truths are perceived through the lens of our own personal beliefs."
Now read it again. Do you fully grasp it? Because when you allow yourself to comprehend this simple concept, you will realize that you are the greatest creator of your own destiny. That’s a lot of power! But don’t mistake that with the concept of having to “fight for your dream.” We hear this sentence all the time… “fight for your dream.” It’s a paradox. Think about it. Dreams allude to a sense of serenity, and the word “fight” does not really seem to fit in there. The journey to achieve your dream and recognize your power should be filled with enjoyments, not struggles. With all the stress-induced psychological and physiological problems that people are facing today, I can’t help but ask: are we really designed to fight for our dreams? A few years ago, I was one of the thousands of underpaid science researchers living in the suburbs of Milan, hoping that one day I will get out of the rat race. I was putting in 80-hour workweeks without any extra pay. And every time I was promoted, I would look at my paycheck and realize that the only increase was the number of hours in the lab. My life was a mess, and I thought the only way out was to battle even harder for a better job, a decent salary and an occasional day off. In retrospect, it seems a little counterintuitive, considering it was what I had been doing up to that point anyway.
"I can’t help but ask: are we really designed to fight for our dreams?"
And then one day, it happened. Without any previous research or desire, I came across Reconnective Healing and decided to give it a shot. I overlooked my skepticism and received three sessions, and then opted for the once-in-a-life time session of The Reconnection. During that journey, I started to consider my options in life, and whether the only card I had in my hands was to keep trying my hardest to achieve a certain goal that I may or may not attain. A deep sense of Trust in something beyond myself, and within myself at the same time, started to gradually strengthen inside me. It was a very subtle knowingness that gave me such a powerful clarity in the limitless potential that I was able to express and give back to the world. It was like being at a restaurant and suddenly realizing that I wasn’t supposed to go into the kitchen, grab the chef’s apron and cook my own dish. I was actually not even allowed to step into the kitchen itself! My only job was simply to look at the menu, choose a meal, place the order, and sip on a glass of wine and have great conversation without doubting for a moment that the dish I ordered will come to me.
"It was a very subtle knowingness that gave me such a powerful clarity in the limitless potential that I was able to express and give back to the world."
And, day-by-day, I practiced the marvelous art of gratitude for what I already had, with humility, discipline, and the crucial process of self-observation that let me recognize the sad recital I had been playing for years. By doing that, I gradually allowed myself to expand my vision, focus on what was making my heart sing and detach myself from all the false preconceptions that were holding me back from reaching my true full potential. I began to witness the beauty of the blossoming process of the ever-evolving creation of my wondrous present... and future! Reconnective Healing and The Reconnection played a critical role in bringing a deep state of lucidity that allows us to shift from being run by our society to having certainty that our World always takes the best care of us. When we step into this new awareness, we truly comprehend that there is no battle to fight, no tests to undertake. We simply remind ourselves that the same creative force that makes the sun rise every day and forms babies from one tiny cell is also able to orchestrate the most extraordinary adventure that effortlessly transforms our life into a great Vacation. After all, those values were at the foundation of Roman-based traditions, and those guys built one of the biggest empires in history! So whatever it is that you envision with trust and certainty, don’t worry, you will get there.